Some Advice
What we want
and what we need
are two separate beasts;
She's not going to need
An I'm Sorry
or some condolences
or a monologue
on "how great of a person"
her mom was.
(Too often, People like
to fill the silence
with self important speeches).
She won't need you to speak.
She'll need you to listen,
to tell her yes, this fucking sucks
and it's okay to cry
and to scream and to rage
because this hurts
And maybe it will
for a long time,
these feelings are real
and genuine
and they mean something
because she loved fiercely
with all her heart
(It's okay to fall apart)
but eventually
she's going to need
to glue those pieces back
(maybe not quite the same)
and this is the hard part
because she's not
going to want to.
She's going to need you
to get her out of bed and go
to that favorite record store
Or to force her
into that dress she loved before
She's going to need someone
to tell her it's okay
not to drown herself in misery
it's okay to laugh again
it's okay to smile
to go out and be happy
for a little while.
it's okay to be sad too.
Stand by her,
in whatever she'll do
because it'll be hard sometimes
she'll be angry at the world
and take it out on you
Endure it for her -
I promise she loves you
she just feels alone
and needs the reassurance
you'll stay by her side
whatever the weather;
high or low tide.
there will be bumps
and bruises
and sometimes
you'll say the wrong thing
and her anger will hurt
her aloofness will sting.
it'll be a long road
but try,
continue to try
and I promise together
you'll get by.