Why People Do What They Do

Ever heard of the blame game?

‘Been there, done that!’

Ever wondered what led you there and why you did what you did?

‘Well…..’

We believe we own the people we’re in love with, that every fiber of their being is obliged to satisfy us in every way possible. We easily announce our claim onto their souls. It’s as if we created them, and that their existence is purely cynical to our being and not even for themselves.

Mistaking this for traits of possessiveness or love is downright stupid. Practicing this kind of control over someone is justifiable only if we’re mentally disturbed or a narcissist and apparently most of us do fall under either one or both of these categories.

All that being said, when one of these people, go out of their ways and for the first time do something that does not include in our book of ‘101 ways to owe me your soul’, it seems like the end of the world. It feels like they have cut us into a million pieces, like an involuntary euthanasia. We’re left heartbroken.

But wait, we are still alive.

Our social media, which becomes a canvas to showcase this anti-climax, is livelier than we have ever been. Still a few breaths old, we paint a million similar looking images of a broken heart with quotes dealing with pain and suffering written across with the blood of this very broken heart (which is, surprisingly, still beating) onto the canvas.

This is when it all starts, the blame game. After we have successfully escorted our hearts into this self-made hell, we just can’t stop blaming them people. We blame them out and out, day and night even for the wrongs that already exist in our lives that they have nothing to do with. We book the entire terrain of bad spells under their name. That’s just how we deal with it and try to mend our seemingly broken hearts.

But what we fail to understand is that, everything we go through has a direct link to everything we put others through. When we put our faith in others, we often forget to read the book named ‘the consequences’. I mean, how much can we expect from something created out of sand, sporting a heart that is designed to keep them alive, provided they do what makes them happy?

Can we all stop being so selfish, please?

The idea of expecting the best from people must be terminated. To put someone under an invisible burden which pushes them down to resort to a level where they do something that is likely to upset us, that’s our fault.

An important task is to understand that we are all equally trained to do what we are supposed to do. If some can expect, others can decide to not live up to those expectations and that should be accepted wisely.

We do what we do because, to be spiritually attained, we realize that it’s okay to not always try and be happy or be the cause for someone else’s happiness. Everything has to be done in right proportions, because adding 2 tablespoon of sugar (instead of teaspoon) to 1 cup of coffee might better the bitter taste of our tongue but also spoil our coffee.