Teach Me How To Love Myself

All I need in this world to survive and thrive instead of merely exist is someone who will love me. Someone who truly cares about me. They say first you must love your self before you can love someone else.  That’s bull shit, you aren’t born loving yourself, you aren’t born with a sense of self confidence or self worth. They are learned attributes. We learn our worth and our value from the people around us,  what we’re told, how we’re spoken to, how we are treated.  All of our self perception derives from that. This is a true yet disturbing thought,  the entire foundation that we build 100% of our existances self perception on is nothing but a mimicry of someone else’s opinion of our worth. For example while growing up you’re raised in a loving caring nurturing home, with positive renforcement, chances are you’ll have a healthy self worth. Where as if you’re raised in a home when you’re ignored, told you’re not good enough, that nothing you do is right, filled with negative and physical punishments, your self worth is going to be pretty low. How as humans are we suppose to learn how to do anything if at first we are not shown how. If no one has ever shown you love, you’ll never know how to love yourself because no one has ever shown you that you’re worth being loved.