Snap out of it

I think society is exaggerating the role of mates. We are taught that everyone should have one and, if the person isn’t already with you, it is simply because the moment is not fit and, eventually, you are finding each over and remain together. Of course, there is some truth in that, but not totally. The reality is, in my mind, that no one is made for you, as one might naively presume judging by the constructs generated by the media or by various forms of art or knowledge, and that there is a spectrum of persons among whom you might find the one with whom you can get along, but that does not mean that the person is the one and only, the other options being excluded.

This way of perceiving things not only limits the possibilities but also creates a great deal of discomfort and anxiety, for one is always stressed, waiting for their love, who usually is coming late. Also, when the two finally begin a relationship, the fear of not losing each over can reach paranoic proportions, which is but detrimental for the mental health of both.

That’s not to say that there are certain people with whom the connection, both physical and spiritual, is stronger than others, which does not imply, however, that it is a unique occurrence and that there is necessarily someone to whom you are destined or vice versa. The belief that there is a soul mate is an illusion constructed by society to, mostly, keep you hooked with someone, even if the circumstances are unpleasant in the long run.

On the other hand, friendship exists, and I would suggest cherishing it, although not in an idealistic fashion.