I Am My Soulmate

I used to think a soulmate had to come from somebody else. As time goes on, I realized anyone you spend enough time with is going to mold into what you want/need them to be to a degree. We do mirror each other, this is due to mirror neurons in our brains. Most people get along enough to the point where they would invest that time in each other and commit to spending it in the first place. But as time goes on, and I've been married for 13 years now, I am starting to see and feel that your "soulmate" can't be from anyone else. Your only soulmate is yourself. You have to have a relationship with yourself. To love and accept yourself more than anyone else, and it is the hardest thing to do ever. I think people who do love themselves, and accepted their imperfections, and adore their quirks, and feel alone time is comforting, and they can defend themselves, and laugh even when they are wrong, they have found that inner balance of self of love and acceptance, I think their soul has mated with their physical self-this unity with the you here on Earth, and that divine cosmic you that is out there or above. I think the idea of it coming from someone else sets us up for failure and frustration, and maybe a divorce. Why can't they be more like this or that... and it will leave you hungry. Be in love with yourself (and express gratitude to your maker), and then your partner or friend and everyone else will feel like they are your "soulmate" but really identify where it is actually coming from.