Revenge is not the best medicine

The end of a relationship is never easy. Most of us cry or walk about in a fog that seems like it would never end. Some of the lucky ones do this for a day or two and then kinda pull up their bootstraps and move on. I highly recommend ice cream and pizza, lots of tissues and allow yourself to feel that sadness, if you feel sad. And if you don't feel sad, hey that's normal too. You might very well been ready to move on, and the end was just a formality. I've been there too.

But on this topic, I wanted to share, that if the feeling of rage, destruction and intense hate bubbles up inside, put a pause on it. It's ok to have the feelings but before you act, stop and think. Relationships are two people. And despite us wanting to say it was all them, you know you had a part too. (Not talking about abuse situations....no one deserves abuse EVER.) It might feel good to channel your best "Before he Cheats moment" (Carrie Underwood), taking a baseball bat to their stuff is not ok. Destroying their life, by destroying them is not ok. Before someone yells back at me, that they deserve it...I'm going to ask, Do You?

Wait... What?

Yup, Do You? You destroying their stuff, their home, or their career and reputation may feel good for a few seconds or minutes....but it doesn't last. You look crazy. You look vengeful. What you don't look is mature, an adult or healthy. Relationships can end. It's ok.

You will survive and if you take a good honest look at the relationship, you will learn something about you, about what you will accept and what you won't. And you will be stronger, more mature and not have a criminal record for doing something stupid in the heat of the moment. We can grow, and let go of the bad, keep the good and know in ourselves we were the adult and just walk away.

It feels great and you will be proud of yourself. And if you have made those mistakes in the past, learn from them. You can walk away with your head held high and know you took the high road, the heart still hurts but you are stronger. You will heal, and the next relationship might be the best relationship because of what you learned.