The Lochness Monster, Bigfoot, the Chupacabra, and my Narcissistic Ex’s Unused Sexy Underwear

One of the most bizarre, mysterious, head-scratching things my narcissistic-personality-disordered ex ever did was buy some articles of skimpy, sexy lingerie . . . and leave them hanging in the closet, gathering dust,--and someday there would have been moths eating them out, too, if I had let the hell go on.

At least something would have been being eaten out.

She never even took the tags off them. Otherwise I'd be worried, if the narcissist had ever taken the tags off.

And the rubber sex toys she kept in her nightstand next to the bed. Also never used with me. Never used at all, I think. And I'd be worried here, too, if she'd ever taken them out of the wrappers and boxes.

I asked her once or twice, "What's with the sex toys? what's with the lingerie? if you're never even going to use them?"

All I ever got from her was another word salad. And more word salad.

It's like she bought those things just to have them. Just to show she could do it: Stay allergic to sex, stay as completely and totally sexless as you can, even with all this sex gear here within reach of the bed.

Not like we share that, either.

Yeah.—You know?—It’s like a fully recovered alcoholic who now steels his resolve by placing himself near where alcohol flows, then he resolutely flexes his willpower by abstaining from it when it’s right there. I think my fully frigid ex did the same thing, but with sex. She steeled her resolve to never have sex with me by buying all of those sex things, placing them right near the bed, then flexing her willpower against sex by abstaining from it even when everything was all right there.

Again, if only the store tags had been cut off those things, if only they'd have been taken out of their packages, if their brand-newness wasn't so obvious, then I'd be scared shitless by how many dudes I was sharing her with. I know ALL about what narcs can do.

NOW I do, anyway.

But the tags were on, the brand-newness was on them, and so I chalk this one right up there with the Lochness Monster, Bigfoot, and the Chupacabra.