The essence of having a relationship seems surreal, blissful and pure happiness. But some relationships are just so superficial and surface level only. Why do I say so? Some people are blinded by their own needs of having one, or let’s just say, having someone to have and to hold. (sounds like that line on a song, eh?) It can be a necessity and a must for a lot of people, but, the question is, are you really ready to have one?

One of the most common misconception about relationship is the ‘you are entitled to know EVERYTHING about your partner’. The thing about that is, we can know everything about someone, but in exchange of that, we are stripping them of their personal space, their privacy. It’s not about 'if you trust me you will tell me everything’. There is a difference between being open and 'forcing’ someone to open up to you. If they are comfortable enough, they would eventually share their innermost feelings with you.

Attachments. A lot of people get the idea that attachment is love, nope, they are way different from each other. Attachment is like, you cling into your partner like a child and you literally all over them, and sometimes that is suffocating. If you feel secure you won’t feel that way around them. Attachments is connected to fear and expectations. You are afraid to lose them so you suffocate them in a way of wanting to be there with them every now and then.

Genuine love says “I love you and I want you to be happy” while attachment would say “I love you and I want you to make me happy”. There is nothing wrong about looking out for your own happiness, but if you think having a relationship can make you REALLY happy, then maybe you should ask yourself “am I seeking happiness outside when it should come from within me?”. Attachments chains down a person to the point of not giving them the freedom and space they constantly need.

Acceptance and trust. Before you look for it in a person, look first within you. Accept your own flaws and faults. Trust yourself more so you can truly trust someone. Love thyself first before engaging into loving someone. Don’t think that you are incomplete without someone. We are complete versions of ourselves, the essence of having someone is to love us for who we are, to guide us to do the things that are good for our well being, to be there with us, through joy and pain; happiness and sadness.

Love when you are ready to be with someone. Enter a relationship not because you are lonely, but because you love genuinely and you are ready to face many experiences and events along with the person that is dear to you. Be in a relationship when the time is right for you; don’t run around and chasing it.

I know I am not the best person, one can have, as a friend or lover,

I know I can only offer whatever I can for those I care about,

And I know how inadequate I am as a human being,

Flawed, imperfect, sinner, messed up being in a vessel,

But I hope that would suffice for those who wants to know me better,

I hope what I am is already good enough for those who wants to enter my world,

I hope I am good enough for anyone who wants to be a friend,

And I really hope, that I am more than enough as a person who loves,

For I often felt that what I am doing is not sufficient, for someone to stay,

That I am not the person you can love as easy as it seems,

That I am just a flawed human being,

Existing and barely living,

Trying to figure out how life really works,

And trying to find the purpose of my being.

The more i resist the love you are showing me, the more I find myself falling into you,

You made me feel that kind of love that both can be calming and crazy at the same time,

I fell hard into you and I cannot get up because I feel drunk when I am actually sober,

The more I look deep into your eyes, the more I get drown and I need you to save me,

The more I hide my own feelings, the more my heart goes wild,

You made me feel so loved that I can no longer resist it anymore,

I am stuck right here, finding myself loving you more each day,

Even though it makes me lose all my sense of time,

But oh, your love would save my soul,

You are the one, who will save me,

Save it with your love.

Distance, for others is a hindrance,

It eats a lot of time and effort,

Especially in relationships,

Making things a bit difficult,

Making it a little bit challenging…

Some people came into conclusion,

That having a relationship with a person,

Who is thousand miles away from you,

Is quite impossible to keep for long,

But I believe, nothing is impossible…

When you love someone,

No matter how many miles apart,

You will find a way to keep it,

No matter how hard and painful it is,

’Cause love knows no boundaries or what…

Loving someone over a mile apart,

Keeping that love burning,

Keeping the relationship strong,

Is the challenging part of it,

You just need to put faith in your relationship…

I always believe that love,

Regardless of distance,

Will always workout in many ways,

It’s just you need to be strong,

To keep the love to go on…

And so i will always say,

That long distance relationships,

Needs to be constant and challenging,

And people who is on that relationship,

Should always trust their loved ones…

We intend to wear a mask to hide who we really are,

We wear different masks for many reasons,

For many occasions and for each person we talk to,

We keep deep inside the pain we feel,

We bury it deep inside our hearts,

Pretending to be fine in front of some,

But vulnerable in front of those we feel safe with,

Our eyes cannot hide what we try to keep,

We may shy away from those who can read us,

But we cannot avoid it forever…

We hide away the pain that haunts us,

The pain that wants to makes us surrender,

But we do not surrender to it,

We crawl back and fight again,

Even if it means standing over again and again,

Even if it break our bones,

Or hurt our muscles and our body,

We still go on and being resilient,

But in the process, we wear mask,

Mask to keep others from seeing,

The real us, hidden deep inside…

Your love that gives me strength,

Your eyes that shines under the moonlight,

Your light that serves as my guide,

I lost the sense of time whenever you’re around,

Whether time flies too slow or too fast,

Your hand you offered for me to hold on to,

You pull out of the darkness I’ve been through,

You can be both loving and challenging for me,

You love me yet you challenged me,

Pushing me down to my limits,

But pulling me up when I’m about to break apart,

You watch my movements as I do things,

Reprimanding me when I am about to commit an error,

The kind of error that is irreversible,

Others may not understand your ways,

But I am able to see through it,

You may give me some tough love,

But deep inside you really care and love,

You do those things so I will learn,

So that I am able to break my illusions,

To be that authentic version of myself,

But you love me, regardless of that all,

You love me unconditionally…